In a society that is filled with liberal ideas and expressions of sex and eroticism, I find that for many people it is actually still very confusing and difficult to truly understand what their own feelings, desires, needs and thoughts are concerning their erotic pleasure. To understand what it really means to be a sexual being. These, relatively, new freedoms have made many of us forget all the beautiful nuance, all the subtleties, all the different expressions and the sensual aspects available to us. By boxing sensuality and eroticism in as ‘sex’, it has drifted far from truly free expression. Not fitting in that standardized box creates confusion and frustration. Feelings none of us want to associate with pleasure.
The sensual and erotic playground is a lush and exciting place for your exploration. By breaking out of the one-size-fits-all box and defining your own rules, there is more space for you to free yourself of any uncomfortable believes or definitions. To go in search of what suits you and how you want sensuality and pleasure to play a role in your life.
In my universe I like to believe that I set my own rules, that I am the creator of my freedom and that I can and may express myself in a manner befitting me. If that is what you aspire to as well, but would like some support along the way, then we might well be a good match.
As a tantric practitioner, a poly-amorist, a believer of freedom of expression whether it be kink or abstinence, very private or very out-there, let me tease and challenge you to explore the sensual and erotic realm. An online program is in the making for 2018 but of course I am also available for one-on-one, Skype or email guidance. Please contact me with any queries (firstname.lastname@example.org) or if you would like to set up an appointment to get to know each other.
Sensual coaching sessions
For those of you based in The Netherlands (Europe) I am also available for real-life sensual coaching sessions. These are designed to be part of your process as a means of extra support or a deep-dive. Contact me with any questions about these or for alternatives if you are not NL based.
As children we were playful and curious in our approach to our bodies. As we get older we think we know our likes and dislikes and act accordingly. But our bodies change, the mood changes, you involve others sometimes, and still we often repeat the same. This session is a playful and curious exploration of your body. Slowly we will map what kind of touch you like on every different part of your body. Naturally we will be respecting your boundaries and only exploring what feels safe to you. So first we will discuss consent and how we will communicate. At the end of this session you will have a deeper and more complete picture of your sensory likes and dislikes which will then open up your playing field wider.
Babies that are not touched die. It is a fact unfortunately. We humans thrive when we are touched and feel the safety of another accepting us. A cuddle session is a quiet ritual of touch and loving, soothing the senses. You set the limits. We will first share some tea and a chat before we get comfortable for 45 mins of being held. Breathing together and just feeling this embrace will bring healing and relaxation. Afterwards you are free to share what came up for you, but also to just share more time together in silence.
Rituals are powerful tools in setting up the intention for what is to come. In our very rushed lives we sometimes forget to make space for those moments that nourish our hearts, souls and bodies. During our time together we will explore the desires that you want to make more space for in your life and brainstorm how you could design a beautiful ritual around some of those. For the purpose of understanding we will also share a opening and closing ritual together. You will see how simple it can be and how this extra bit of attention will open a pathway to greater intimacy.