In a society that is filled with liberal ideas and expressions of sex and eroticism, I find that for many people it is actually still very confusing and difficult to truly understand what their own feelings, desires, needs and thoughts are concerning their erotic pleasure. To understand what it really means to be a sexual being. These, relatively, new freedoms have made many of us forget all the beautiful nuance, all the subtleties, all the different expressions and the sensual aspects available to us. By boxing sensuality and eroticism in as ‘sex’, it has drifted far from truly free expression. Not fitting in that standardized box creates confusion and frustration. Feelings none of us want to associate with pleasure.
The sensual and erotic playground is a lush and exciting place for your exploration. By breaking out of the one-size-fits-all box and defining your own rules, there is more space for you to free yourself of any uncomfortable believes or definitions. To go in search of what suits you and how you want sensuality and pleasure to play a role in your life.
In my universe I like to believe that I set my own rules, that I am the creator of my freedom and that I can and may express myself in a manner befitting me. If that is what you aspire to as well, and would like some support along the way, then we might well be a good match.
As a tantrica (tantra practitioner), living a poly lifestyle, I am a believer of freedom of expression. Whether it be kink or abstinence, very private or very out-there, let me tease and challenge you to explore the sensual and erotic realm. An online program is in the making for 2018 but of course I am also available for one-on-one, Skype or email guidance. Please contact me with any queries (firstname.lastname@example.org) or if you would like to set up an appointment to get to know each other.
Sensual coaching sessions
For those of you based in The Netherlands (Europe) I am also available for real-life sensual coaching sessions. These are designed to be part of your process as a means of extra support or a deep-dive. Contact me with any questions about these or for alternatives if you are not NL based.
Sensual Mapping session
As children we were playful and curious in our approach to our bodies. As we get older we think we know our likes and dislikes and act accordingly. But our bodies change, the mood changes, you involve others sometimes, and still we often repeat the same. This session is a playful and curious exploration of your body. Slowly we will map what kind of touch you like on every different part of your body. Naturally we will be respecting your boundaries and only exploring what feels safe to you. So first we will discuss consent and how we will communicate. At the end of this session you will have a deeper and more complete picture of your sensory likes and dislikes which will then open up your playing field wider.
Tantric cuddle session
We humans thrive when we are touched and held in close contact by loving and accepting hands. A tantric cuddle session is a quiet ritual of touch and loving which can be deeply healing and fulfilling. We will first share some tea and discuss your desires and boundaries. We will establish consent before we get comfortable for 45 mins of being held and touched. Breathing together and just being allowed to feel and express can be very liberating. No goals, no expectations. Afterwards you are free to share what came up for you, but also to just sit together in silence.
Tantric Touch & Play
Tantra can open a gateway to a more embodied sensuality. Through dance, massage, breath work, play, meditation and other practices. Any tantra session will be part of a program we develop together with your needs and desires in mind. Speaking your desire is a practice all in itself, so this is where we shall start. I look forward to holding space for you and partnering you on your tantric experience.
Rituals for Intimacy
Rituals are powerful tools in setting up the space for true connection and softness. In our very rushed lives we sometimes forget to make space for those moments that nourish our hearts, souls and bodies. Slowly depleting the intimacy in our lives. During our time together we will explore the desires (deeper connection, more appreciation, open communication, rekindle playfulness, etc) that you want to make more space for and brainstorm how you could design a beautiful ritual around some of those. For the purpose of understanding we will also experience an opening and closing ritual together. You will see how simple it can be and how this extra bit of attention will open a pathway to greater intimacy.